What’s the Buzz? Rihanna

So, Rihanna did an interview with Oprah and the world is all a buzz.

One of the chief topics of the interview was Chris Brown, their past (and current?) relationship, and the assault that left Rihanna bruised and bloodied in February 2009.  I’ve copied some of the most talked about quotes here for those of you who maybe have not seen the interview:

“I was hurt the most. Nobody felt what I felt…It happened. It happened to me…It was embarrassing. It was humiliating. It was hurtful. I lost my best friend…Everything I knew, was switched in a night”-Rihanna remembers the night Chris Brown attacked her in 2009.

“I felt protective…as angry as I was…I just felt like he made that mistake because he needed help and who’s going to help him?”-Rihanna’s initial reaction to feeling bad for Chris.

“We’ve been working on our friendship again. Now we’re very very close friends. We built a trust again. We love each other and probably always will… I’m single but we’ve maintained a very close friendship”-On her current relationship with Chris.

“It’s awkward. It’s awkward because I still love him…My stomach drops and I have to maintain this poker face and not let it get to the outer part of me. I have to maintain that and suppress it”-on having funny feelings when she still sees Chris Brown (as recent as this summer in St. Tropez)

“Absolutely. I think he was the love of my life. He was the first love. I see that he loved me the same way. We were very young and very spontaneous. We ran free; we ran wild. We were falling in love and going at a really rapid pace that we forgot about ourselves”-Rihanna reveals that Chris Brown was a true love of her life.

“I truly love him so the main thing for me is that he is at peace. I’m not at peace if he’s a little unhappy or he’s still lonely…I care”-Rihanna on her now feelings for Chris Brown.

Personally, I am so torn by these feelings Rihanna still has for this man who beat her.  I want her to hate him.  I want her to never speak to him again, but unltimately it isn’t my life.  And having worked in a domestic violence shelter for 2 years when I was just out of college, I’m not surprised.  She isn’t saying anything I haven’t heard before.

Everyone who comes out of an abusive relationship has a cycle of feelings and emotions to go through.  Rihanna has had the unique circumstance of having to live this trauma in front of all of us; in front of the world, really.  It can’t be easy for her.  In the interview, she also said that she had forgiven Chris.  The question of whether or not her fans can forgive him isn’t really one she can be concerned with right now.  She has to focus on her life and her direction. I hope that somewhere along the way, she finds the peace she wishes for him.

Yes. I said that…

So…sometimes I get a little ahead of myself and start telling a story that I think is funny. Then about midway through I realize this may not have been the best idea. This happened to me last week when I was giving the Girls Fight Back program at Lincoln College at Normal.

The program was taking place at the Student Commons and I walked in at the tail end of R.A. interviews. It totally brought me back to every interview I ever had in college, but mainly reminded me of the worst experience ever with my R.A. Let’s just say that it involved the boyfriend of the girl across the hall, intoxication, public urination, my brand new rug from Target and a really uncomfortable apology demanded by my R.A. I’m going to spare you all the full story (what happens in IL, stays in IL) – but I will make clear that it was not I who was intoxicated, urinating, or apologizing.


I had the best time with the ladies of Lincoln. The group was a little smaller, which I loved because it gave me more one on one time to learn about them and answer questions. We were also reminded why you never mess with the smallest person- I would certainly not want to be on the receiving end of any blows from the front and center blonde (you know who you are)  🙂

It’s really interesting hearing about the fears women have and talk through them. The students at Lincoln College definitely gave me some great topics to bring with me on my journeys! Thanks for having me…